Toilet Training

Its been about 2 weeks since Kyler has taken a 'real' interest in going potty on the toilet. He has in the past wanted to go on the potty, so we bought a toilet seat for him...but then it really died off and nothing ever came of it.
Then about 2 weeks ago Kyler said he wanted to go pee on the potty too, when all the daycare kids were taking their turns going in to go potty. I blew it off. Bad i know. A few minutes later he asked again, again i blew him off (BAD i know) then the third time i gave in i took him in pulled his pants off, diaper off, put him on the toilet and nothing. Nothing, nothing nothing. We sat in there for 15 minutes. So i put him back into a diaper and we went to nap. That night i thought we would try again before bath time. He always pees in the tub. It grosses me out, so i told him to pee before we got in. He proceeded to try. "stuck mommy" "oooooo, too hard mommy" "cant, it stuck mommy" was all i heard for a minute or two. I told him he could do it, kept encouraging him and HE PEED!!! Did it all on his own. I freaked out in happy shrills! Scared the little man to death! :) He got in the tub and didn't pee. blessed.
Now he asks to pee everyday at nap time and then before bath. He has yet to pee again, but he wants to. He wants to be like all the other little boys i tend that can go in and pee. Today i was hurrying, didn't want to take the 10 minutes to try to not have anything happen (again lazy bad mom)so when he wanted help to get his pants unbuttoned i ignored him. (bad bad mom) a few minutes later he asked again (again i became a bad mom), so he then took matters in his own hands. . . .

SIDE NOTE We have been working hard with him to get himself undressed completely. We started working on this after the first night he peed in the toilet realizing it was getting close, and the poor bugger couldn't get his own pants down or shirt off for that matter. The diaper is a whole other issue. he for the life of himself cannot figure out how the heck to take the stupid diaper off. Other kids do it in their sleep and my guy cannot figure it out. Doesn't matter how many times i or Brandon show he he has no clue. We have had to take it off him every night. He wants to, i can tell, he gets super super frustrated at the dang thing cause he cannot find the dumb tabs to get it off.  I guess i value other skills more and never bothered to encourage him to undress and he hasn't wanted to do it himself yet. But now, he can get himself undressed...if he is in the mood. If not, he will fake try and say "oof, too hard mommy!"

So onto the rest of the story. I had ignored him, he becoming so independent went into the bathroom (all unknown to me who was getting the other kids ready for naps.) took his own pants off, took his own diaper off! He then got the potty lid on the toilet and couldn't get on top, so then he had to ask for help one more time...so in comes my 3/4 naked child into the room "mommy, pwreese help me" Gosh, nothing like a plea of a 2 year old to melt your heart...so we went in and tried...nothing....nothing and still nothing. He was mad. We got dressed and i could tell his was sad.
So knowing the time must be here to try and get him totally trained i would like all your advice. I am the kind of person that hates the "this is the only way" method approach. My way of doing things is to read lots of opinions, and figure out my own way of doing things. ... so come on tell me what worked for you and what didn't. I'm on my way to potty training my first, and i wont lie...I'm scared to death! :)